Joy of Giving
JL Tip | Children are naturally wired to give to others, all we need is just guide them?
Whenever we receive gifts, it is one of the happiest feelings. However, this joy is often transitory. Seemingly, we receive a great inner joy that comes from helping others to better their lives. This habit of genuinely giving from the heart, not only fills your life with joy but also nourishes your soul to quite an extent. This inherent reward of giving is far more precious than the gift itself, as it allows you to expand beyond earthly limitations. You need to remember that real joy lies in the act of giving without even expecting to receive something in return.
Being A Giver
Every parent wants their children to show empathy and to give to others, but the fact of the matter is that nature already had a way to get this done. Giving makes both, the children and grown-ups alike feel better. In a study, the activity of the mesolimbic reward system in the brain was measured by some researchers, and it was proved that it heightens when humans receive positive rewards. The study graph even saw a greater activity when people donated to charity as against when they received money themselves. The ultimate joy of being a giver eclipses the joy of being its recipient.
Kids Are Wired To Give
Studies suggest that spontaneous sharing behaviours in pre-school kids might be related to their rudiment empathic reasoning as opposed to external forces, in other words, their moral compass. Furthermore, another research shows that pro-social behaviour frequency in children is not related to their age or gender, suggesting that no socialization influences are at play.
Giving Is Rewarding
Giving generously is far more rewarding than receiving. Be it on neural, personal, or social levels, the advantage of giving doesn?t just stop with how we feel. Studies advocate that a healthy correlation exists between well-being, happiness, health, and longevity of emotionally and behaviourally compassionate people. This sounds so amazing, as it turns out that generous people are healthier and live longer.
Parents As a Guiding Force
The moment you start focusing on giving to others, it is less likely that you get consumed by your concerns and challenges. Giving lends you an opportunity to look beyond your world, and presents a broader perspective about life. As parents and caregivers, your mission ought to be to guide the students in discovering the joy of giving, which they already carry within themselves, and thus live happier, healthier, and more successful lives.
Tips On How To Guide Students To Taste The Joy Of Giving In Their Lives:
Make a Connection:
There is a need to encourage generosity among students by making a connection. The children need to be asked as to how happy, excited, and privileged they feel to have lots of toys, as compared to some of the other children?s families that can?t afford it. With this connection, they can be asked if they wish other kids to be as happy as well.
Be the Guide:
Inherently, some students are much more natural when it comes to generosity than some of the others. Even if your child is not a naturally thoughtful type, it?s not uncommon or weird. Just don?t dwell on or surface negative ideas about this fact, rather focus on the ways and means to help him become one. All that is needed is proper guidance and not cruel comparison.
Ways of Giving:
In this practical world, there are many different ways to give. Just explain to the students a handful of choices in very simple terms, and leave it on them to decide. These ideas could be anything as small as say collecting for food banks, or probably adopting an elderly relative that your child can make cards for, or maybe get some favourite food for them. As long as the kids are giving, they will carry a feel-good factor about themselves.
As mentors, you need to feed into them about valuing family members, neighbours, even the bus drivers or teachers who would appreciate being remembered by kids, and back your children to create their expression of giving. It is all about creating expressions for them.
Share your Story:
The more you share your own stories and experiences, the more chances that the child will imbibe them subconsciously in their mind. You should frequently share with your child about what all activities you do personally, or for the organization you support or participate in, to help people in need. Share your side of the story on how good you felt while making that contribution happen.
Let-go Old Stuffs:
Make it a practice of giving away your child?s old clothes and toys to other kids in need. Make your children understand that they aren?t going to use them anymore, but other needy kids will be glad to use them. Share with them the reasons why other kids don?t have as much. This will trigger their generosity with valid reasons, that shall perhaps live with them life-long.
Protect their Interests:
As you teach your children to share, at the same time respect their attachment to certain things, while still guiding them to be generous enough. It is pretty common for a child to be selfish with some of their toys and generous with some other stuff. All you need here is to guard the prized toy. Do not force your child into sharing, rather ease it out by their will. This practice will make them happy to give.
If we feel hopeless or depressed from within, then the best remedy is to go out and give hope and courage to others. And then see what happens?
Trust me, you will surely change something in your life and feel much better about yourself.
Happy Giving Everyone!